“Regret is way worse than losing, and people are choosing to live with regret because they don’t want to take the chance to do something because they might lose in front of others.”- GaryVee
Getting a good understanding of what you want out of life is the key piece of the puzzle.
To get that understanding, you might have to try hundreds of new things. Even as an adult. Especially as an adult.
Over the past three years, I estimate that I’ve left a half million dollars on the table. But I live relatively stress free and do what I want every day.
Long term patience and short term action are the answers.
Short term impatience and long term inaction are the killers.
In Coastal Mississippi, rules are merely suggestions, and freedom reigns supreme, which I love.
Within the past five years, I’ve really gotten a good understanding of myself as an individual human being. As a father, I am on it. As a traditional partner, I’m a handful.
Kids are love. When I look at my kids, I just feel love.
I hope Christy and the kids boat, fish, and swim every day this summer. That’s the whole point of being here.
The most complex thing along the journey has been health insurance. What a cluster.
Every time I accomplish something that I didn’t think was possible, I realize that at that moment, I am still nowhere near my potential.
I’ve lost so much over the last five years, that losing doesn’t scare me. All of that losing made me so much better.
Eventually, I am going to win, and it’s going to be huge.
Getting good at golf, running marathons, and raising small children are tossups for the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
My arthritis is real, but I just find a way. It’s my superpower.
I’m sore. Very sore. Extremely sore.
I am not a big fan of small talk or excuses.
The process of getting really good at something is intense. You make lots of sacrifices, but so do the people around you. None of that goes unnoticed.
Travel is the best. It really is. My soul craves a unique trip about every six weeks. I feel like I now have friends and friendly acquaintances everywhere.
If the world doesn’t offer what you want, create it yourself.
Fear of other people’s judgement has to be the number one killer of dreams. That, and addiction to the mighty dollar.
Moms are superheroes. I repeat.
I try to take two days completely off each week now. Of the other five days, I bust it for three and then just work the other two.
Having said that, if you are trying to build something (a company, brand, lifestyle, etc.), it’s an all day, every day thing.
abk is always on my mind.
You must enjoy the grind and process of what you do. Otherwise, it will be difficult to fulfill your potential because the grind will simply wear you out.
Coulda shoulda woulda. Either you let it happen, make it happen, or it ain’t gonna happen.
I don’t mind asking for help. I don’t mind people offering suggestions. But I do not like being told what to do.
There is a massive difference between making a living, living, and living life to the fullest.
Most problems really aren’t problems.
I make mistakes all of the time. It’s a huge part of coloring outside the lines.
Surround yourself with negativity and the world becomes a cynical place. Surround yourself with positivity and it becomes a pretty cool adventure.
I try to give people a different perspective on life. That’s my purpose. It may be the only time they ever see or hear something different.
I’m known as the guy down here who travels everywhere and plays golf all the time. That’s reasonably accurate.
It’s me vs. me and you vs. you. Simple as that.
Many people have seen only one way to live. I’ve observed and experienced hundreds of ways now. The abk lifestyle takes cues from my favorites.
At the end of the day, am I going to be a specialist in golf or on taking the journey? I prefer the latter.
Golf is now my job. I guess jet skiing is a hobby.
I’ve got a couple of tournaments over the summer then I want to take my son to Detroit.
I miss autumn leaves. We don’t have that down here. So every autumn, there will be a family fall leaf viewing trip.
Don’t waste my time, because I sure as hell won’t waste yours.
I have a hard time with mediocrity.
I’ve basically had to go back to square one to learn everything about the game of golf. It’s been worth it.
I think it’s important to have fresh perspectives from an outsider.
I turn forty on Wednesday, and I play outside every single day. That feels like success to me.
Have a great week.-Benj
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