About Benj


Growing up, all I ever wanted was a pair of Air Jordans and a gold necklace.  And that was the beginning of my fascination with all things style some 25 years ago.

My name is Benj.  I am 35 years old. I’m as comfortable in sweats as I am in Gucci loafers, but I do not own a single pair of khakis. I grew up in Wingate, NC (pop. 3,689) and currently have a beautiful home in Charlotte, NC with my wife, Christy, and our son, Banks.  My dream is to split time between NYC (center of the world) and Wingate (two traffic lights), traveling the world for inspiration in between.  My mom is a professional pianist, and the sound of piano music is the purest form of art for me.  The beautiful game (soccer) is a very close second.  I’m a commercial banker.  I have 8 tattoos.  And mediocrity is my worst nightmare.

This blog is not just about wearing stylish clothes, but also about having the courage to follow your passions and live the life you want to live.  I have had an appreciation for good style for as long as I can remember, but it has only been in the past year that I have truly understood that gift and learned how to use it to help others.  This blog is an extension of that.

I’ve always marched to the beat of my own drum, whether it is the clothes I wear or the way I view life.  It’s sometimes a little lonely, but I like to do things my way, and I am not afraid to take risks.  I always try to have a smile on my face, and present myself for the occasion.  And that combination oftentimes gets people’s attention.

So instead of just continuing to view fashion as my own personal hobby, I am determined to use style as my platform to help others pursue the best version of themselves.  I don’t want you to be me.  I don’t want you to dress like me.  But I do want to help you step out of your comfort zone to live the life you want to live.

Lastly, regarding the blog name. In the South, we call light beige pants “khakis”. They are bland. Everyone wears them. And they are typically ill-fitting.  They represent to me everything in life that is routine or average. And I just can’t make myself wear them.