I turned 43 last Sunday. Last year when I turned 42, I felt about 65. This year, I feel about 25. What happened?
90% dedicated mindfulness work for fifteen minutes every single day. 10% keeping the body moving.
Seriously, I haven’t missed a single day of the mindfulness work. It’s that important.
I experience the world totally differently now than a year ago. Five years ago? Those experiences seem comical.
A really tense situation happened the other day, and I just started laughing. A really beautiful situation happened the other day, and I just started crying. That’s how I know it’s working.
My greatest achievement this year was being able to sit still, completely at ease. Hell, that may be the greatest achievement of my life.
My biggest fear used to be loneliness, yet now my greatest pleasure is not being disturbed.
I took an experiential class from Harvard Business School on happiness, and that was cool.
I’m six weeks away from finishing the experiential Inner Engineering program designed by Sadhguru, and that’s really cool.
I’m roughly eight months away from getting my full PGA membership, aka my PhD in Golf. When that happens, the celebration will be enormous.
Book learning has never made any sense to me.
Real life, experiential learning is where it’s at.
If I were in charge, we’d teach physical fitness, meditation, and personal finance in school.
Sunlight is the best medicine. Meditation is a close second. Meditation in the sunlight is paradise.
There is nothing like being outside in nature.
I can honestly say now that the most fun and rewarding thing is the process: the process of getting better at golf, the process of building my own business, the process of collecting rare sports cards…
Failing is an integral part of the process.
My favorite thing about sports cards is sharing the time with my son. My second favorite thing is how beautiful the modern cards are. The third thing is negotiating the price at auction.
Clothes, jewelry, sunglasses, shoes, and sports cards. That’s my art.
But I also like actual art.
After my brain exploded, I was scared to travel for a couple of months, but luckily that came and went.
I’ve been to Dallas, Tampa, and Chattanooga in the past two months and had an absolute blast.
The house we frequent just outside of Chattanooga is my sanctuary. However, I feel at home most anywhere now.
I’m a big fan of reinventing myself as it is needed. At a minimum, a human being should evolve constantly.
Monday is Daddy-Daughter Day. It’s so beautiful. Even though she’s wild, she’s softened me. She’s my little nugget.
When Jayson Tatum tore his Achilles tendon, my son cried and cried. I love the passion.
The time has come that I like teaching golf more than playing. But it’s not really about teaching golf, it’s about helping the person in front of me discover things about himself that he can improve.
Don’t get it twisted. I still love to play.
I have observed that most people have no idea what their true dreams and goals are. So I press and nudge and poke and prod and try to get them somewhere so the light bulb goes off.
Wasted potential is my key driver. I personally do a lot, and I feel like I barely even scratch the surface of what I could actually do.
I tell myself every day to work to overcome some limitation.
I used to think freedom was doing whatever I want. I now know it is having the choice to do whatever I want.
I was lifting weights and getting pretty damn strong, then my left shoulder popped. So that was that for a few weeks.
My left shoulder and right ankle are weak, and I don’t get to see my son’s soccer games on the weekend. That’s really all I have to complain about anymore.
Most of life is just a game. We make it so serious.
Full throttle, learn ferociously, celebrate daily. That’s the current era of abk.
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Have a great week.-Benj
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