I Have More Shoes Than Your Wife


The above statement may or may not be true, but I do have a lot of shoes. I also have a lot of ties, and my hat collection is growing. But outside of that, I have shockingly very few clothes for someone who loves fashion so much. I am actually very much a minimalist, and I will choose quality over quantity every time. But the real reason I have so few clothes is twofold: one, I hate stuff. Two, I have no desire to waste precious time deciding what I want to wear.

Time is the most valuable commodity in this world, yet so many people struggle with time management and just generally waste so much time. And then you ask someone how they are doing, and they just say “busy”. Huh? People ask me how I fit in all of those things I talk about in previous blogs to my day. I make lists. I do things on said lists. And I get on with it. Don’t get me wrong. I absolutely love my lunches with the boys. I love cracking jokes with folks throughout the day. But if it doesn’t have a real purpose, or I don’t get any enjoyment from it, I don’t waste a single second on it. Over the past few years, my family has made some simple (and not so simple) tweaks to free up time to do more things that we enjoy. Though traffic wasn’t the primary reason we moved, it had gotten diabolical where we lived. We made a change. My commute is now almost nothing, and my wife’s is much more pleasant. She was also spending all day on certain Sundays cleaning the house. I had been trying to convince her for years to hire a cleaning service so she could have her Sundays back, and so we finally did. She would spend the other part of her weekend grocery shopping, so she found a service called Shipt that would deliver groceries to our doorstep, and now we have our groceries delivered to our house. The building of our new house was, of course, a big investment, but the cleaning service is $200 per month, and Shipt is $99 per year plus tipping the driver. We made these changes, and the quality of our lives improved 1,000 times over.

IMG_2888It takes me about two minutes to get dressed in the morning, and do you want to know why? Minus my statement pieces and some crazy shoes, everything practical in my wardrobe goes with one another. I can pack for a 4-day trip in five minutes. As an example, most of my day-to-day clothes are in shades of blue, gray, brown, and white. Brown shoes, navy socks, navy suit, brown belt, white shirt, blue tie, white pocket square. I can put that together in fifteen seconds, and it looks great! Sounds dull though, doesn’t it? Put that side by side with someone wearing olive pants, a peach shirt, flamingos on their socks…see where I am going. Unless we are at the circus, my outfit wins every time. ( Not that this is a competition.) My real point is that sometimes simple is better, and it can save you a lot of time and hassle deciding what to wear each day. This applies to both women and men. I love creativity more than anyone in this world, but for every day wear, I have found that adopting a “uniform” that fits well is the best way to save time and still look great. THIS DOES NOT MEAN THROWING ON WRINKLED KHAKIS AND A BLUE SHIRT EVERY DAY. I REPEAT…

IMG_2936This week, think about two things. First, think about what people tell you looks good on you. Then replicate that with subtle tweaks. That should be your uniform. Fill your closet with it. You don’t need seven pair of fuchsia pants and six Hawaiian shirts when you don’t have the basics mastered. It makes no sense. And second, think about what takes lots of your time that you really don’t enjoy doing. Are there alternatives that might give you back some of your time and improve your quality of life? If so, don’t forget to act on it. Thinking about it forever only wastes more time.

Have a great week.-Benj

2 thoughts on “I Have More Shoes Than Your Wife

  1. Love your posts. Simple but realistic for males & females. You’re a good writer. Keep it up, kiddo. Love to all.


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