Finding True Freedom- Final Thoughts

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”-Oscar Wilde

·       I completed my almost 17 year banking career on Friday.  Currently, I have no house or job.

·       What am I going to do?  As I tell my mother, don’t worry about me.  I will figure it out.

·       There is not enough time in my life to do everything I would like.  But I will try.

·      I may not be able to walk when I’m 65. Why would I wait until then to live?


·       What do you really want to do with your life?  Are you doing it?  Have you even thought about it?

·       I would rather be an outsider than an insider. 

·       There is compromise, there is settling, and there is being someone you are not.

·       I am keenly aware that many worthwhile things in life involve a “we”.


·       If you hear an older person you respect say “I regret…”, pay attention.

·       The primary 2 responses to this new adventure are “I wish I had the courage” and “How are you going to make money?”

·       I basically completed the 2018 NYC Marathon on pure willpower.


·     Did I change who I was? No. Did I discover who I was? Yes. 

·       I am a disrupter, but my heart is always in the right place.

·       Leave your “yes men and women” now and again.

·       If it’s not interesting, you’ve lost me.

·       There is no better feeling than being real.

·       I hope you haven’t gotten lost in my journey, instead energized to refocus on your own.

·       Living is a daily art.  Hourly even.  Not a weekend thing.

·       There was a time in Mexico City where I thought “this isn’t going well”.


·       You have to start believing in yourself!

·       abk isn’t about the answers.  It’s about the questions.

·       Facing my fears and owning my imperfections is what freed me, not quitting my job.

·       Less talk.  More doing.

·       I completely unwound and re-wound my life in 671 days.

·       If you find yourself saying “life gets in the way”, pause and try and fathom what you just said.

·       I want to do something that no one has ever done before.

·       I don’t want a 9-5 or picket fence or cul de sac or power or fancy title.  I do need health insurance though.

·       I need a new set of unknowns.

·       Lots of this process was very uncomfortable.  I felt like publicizing it could help someone.  I hope it did.

·       It turns out I do have emotions, which is good.


·       Thank you to so, so many people!

·       abk was a letter to myself, so if you were ever offended, good, but I wasn’t talking to you.  Except that I was.

·       You must own your life story.  Reinvent yourself as many times as needed.

·       When you do something against the grain, the most resistance often comes from those closest to you.

·       I have 12 tattoos.


·       I call this last 2 years The Great Awakening.

·       Use your experiences to help someone.  Want nothing in return.

·       Becoming a parent rocked my world.


·       Can you really live your dreams?  We shall see.

·       New life, new adventure. 


Next chapter, coming soon.  But for now, I need a nap. -Benj


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4 thoughts on “Finding True Freedom- Final Thoughts

  1. . I might just like this one better. . So many pearls. . I will be coming back to this often. . Thank you. . Good luck again. I know You don’t need it. . Speak to you soon old friend

    On Sun, Mar 24, 2019 at 8:51 PM anything but khakis wrote:

    > Benj B. posted: ““To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong > romance.”-Oscar Wilde · I completed my almost 17 year banking career > on Friday. Currently, I have no house or job. · What am I going to > do? As I tell my mother, don’t worry about me. I will ” >

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  2. Really good one, Benj. I admire you and your words. I wish all younger people could/would read this and understand what you are actually saying about life.. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. jan

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